Have you ever looked at your children and wondered. . . How did I get here? When I was little I always wanted a lot of children(6 exactly). I am guessing because I came from a family of 8 that helped me make my decision. In the end I had 3, which is half of my 6, but I married T who came from a family of 4. That's so much smaller than my 8, so to be in the middle with 5 is great. As my kids get older I am surprised at how my love changes for them. When they are little you are all they need, that's all they know. You are their main care giver, give the best snuggles, the good night kisser, the one who makes the little owes go away, you help them tie their shoes, brush their teeth, get the cutest outfit, and how to deal with the little criss' that arise in their little world.
As I look at my 2 oldest I am amazed at how much they have changed from the 5~6 year olds to the pre~teen and teenager they are. They really don't need me, but allow me to be a part of their changing world. Their friends are SO important, that sometimes I wonder if T and I even exist and then out of the blue they are treating you like a friend, with the respect that they still know you are the parent. Some where along the way I have missed the jump from child to young adult. My love for them has never left it just seems that it is adjusting to a different kind of love.
I have often caught myself looking at O and remembering when he would share his sippy cup with A and then how he went through the stage of loathing her and now he has come full circle to being nice again. Does he see her beauty(we have always told him watch out your friends will want to date your little sister) and want to help guide her in her decisions, to make my job a little easier, or is he trying to influence her to stay away from his friends. Whatever the plan is for him I am glad that he sees her as a peer, and not an enemy. As this school year approaches I have so many thoughts about them being in the same Jr/Sr High School, that I am hoping that together they can make the next 4 years very memorable.
I LOVE MY KIDS!! ~<3~<3~
1 comment:
Oh Mel....That was wonderful!!! I cried my eyes out reading this post.
My oldest has always seemed to see his little brothers as the enemy which makes them have to be defensive all the time. I can't even imagine how he/they would treat a little sister.
They all love the baby to bits...but he's not touching their stuff yet.
Tho I had 2 older sisters, I always felt like an only child. I always wanted 3 kids...when I got the 3 oldest; I thought "someone is missing". (Totally tacky, I know.) Now that there are 4 I'm thinking 1 would be good...but not the 1st one I had.
You seem to be adjusting well from having babies to kids to teenagers. Holy crap...can you even imagaine in-laws & grandbabies. My mind jumps straight from kids to DAUGHTER-in-laws. YIKES!!
Love ya Honey.
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